Relationships (for ladies)

I am a girl who has been in many relationships, searching for love.. The love you could find in story books and fairytales.


Ladies:
  If you get into a relationship with a guy, he won't be that prince charming that you have been searching for your whole life. They won't have that perfect personality, the one that shines like a diamond in the rough.
  A relationship is a compact between two people who have a connection. Of course it's not set in stone that you are bound together forever. No man wants to feel that they have to be tied down by a girl in the 9th grade. Here are a few examples of what guys want.

• To have fun with the guys. They don't want to be constantly by your side. If a guy feels smothered, he will be more tempted to leave you or cheat on you. They have to get out every once in a while, so when he does get out, don't blow up his phone with text messages or phone calls, because at that moment you will look completely psycho. Just because he doesn't text you back when he is hanging with his friends, doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it means he just needs some space. Video games, football, WOW, etc. Just let him be a guy. 
• Sex. Which, if you haven't been with him for at least a year, is  a big NO NO! Don't give him a taste of you before you get to know him. If he wants sex, make him wait, because if he only wants you for sex, he will leave you quickly after getting what he wants. 

• Games. Most guys love to play video games because its the "in thing". "EVERYONE HAS CALL OF DUTY SO THEY MUST HAVE IT TO". You will most likely get ignored for the game, which will upset you extremely. What you have to do is give him a few hours of the game then ask him to spend time with you, if he gets mad, don't blow up on him. Stay calm and try to explain that you want to spend time with him. 

   If you get the feeling that you are being cheated on, don't make any assumptions. You must remember that they are innocent until proven guilty. There are signs of course that they are cheating on you. They begin hiding stuff a lot more. They don't let you touch their phone. They get very defensive if you ask them questions. They get less intimate with you, pulling away from you. Those are the basic signs. If you feel that these things are happening to you, then you should try to talk to him, calmly and peacefully. If you burst on them, then things may just get worse for you. After that, leave him. That's the best way to get out unless you feel you truly love him. If you stay with him after that, then it is your choice, you have to learn to trust him again, you can't hold it over his head the rest of his life. And one more thing about  it.... IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. See women get it in their heads that it is their fault that their man cheated on them, that they  have something wrong with them. You are wrong. It is the man's fault if he decides to cheat on you, and you must realize that. Although It is your fault for staying with them. Men.. are difficult to understand, especially when it comes to these situations.
   If you ever get the feeling of cheating, don't follow the feeling. I know that sometimes you feel like it's a must because you feel ignored, but it's not a must. I swear that to you. Cheating makes you feel guilty and it's nearly impossible to forgive yourself.
   Relationships are a two way street. Both you and the man need to talk, work at the relationship to make it better. Never depend on your family or your friends to make your relationship better. It angers a man when you tell every single problem to a friend, expecting the friend to fix it. Nobody can make things better, accept you.
   Remember that confidence is sexy to a man. If you constantly put yourself down, the guy will get angry and will eventually give up on trying to make you have confidence. Smile when they give you a compliment. One thing that helps you with your confidence boost is to look at yourself everyday in the mirror and say "I'm beautiful". Look at yourself and look at the beautiful qualities you have. Men don't like women who put themselves down, it makes them sick to their stomach actually. Remember that.
   Never say "i love you" too early. If you say i love you after one month of dating, it will be meaningless. You won't mean it. You have a lust for them, a attraction. If you say i love you to early in the relationship, the guy may have the assumption that you are clingy. They may say it back but most likely not mean it. Wait until you actually feel it. Don't just say it.
   Remember, you are beautiful. Just the way you are. Never, EVER change for a man!



Signed
Aphrodite <3